The Keys To Supporting A Strong Christian Wife
Updated: Nov 6
Men, how do you feel about your spiritually strong wife? Does she seem to be more involved in the church than you? Is she often receiving accolades? Is she involved in many church activities while still maintaining house and home? Is her professional job often called upon to be used at church, with which she willingly complies? In this article, we’re going to look at how to deal with these things. From a woman’s point of view, I’ll recommend the keys to supporting a strong Christian wife, Biblically.
As the man, are you feeling a little left behind, overlooked, threatened even? Are you worried that she could be usurping your authority? Are you worried she is overdoing it, and all will come crashing down? What is a strong Christian man to do?
Rejoice!!! Celebrate!! She was made for such a man like you! She is your specially made helper, coming from God Himself! A wife like this completes your great spiritual team. Pull this amazing woman onto your team and watch her take off!
Though strong she may be, there are some things that she desperately needs from you. Consider these thoughts I bring before you as a woman. Your wife may be even MORE of a blessing, not only to you and your family, but to the work of the Lord as well.
Give her your blessing to use her talents and gifts for the church
This is so important to her. Why? Because YOU are the most important person in her life (aside from the LORD of course). She wants to please you in everything she does, as she works for the LORD.
Be proud of her and tell her
She is not going to run slipshod over you. She needs to feel like her talents are a blessing to you! Let her know you see her, and you love her all the more for what she can accomplish in Jesus’ name.
Praise her publicly
Nothing is sweeter to her than to hear her name on your lips! Remember this is not a contest between the two of you! Don’t be stingy in your accolades.
Praise her in front of your children
Let them know you are so excited to have such a wonderful mom for them. Help them to place their trust in her. Believe me, she is doing the very same thing for you (or at least, should be)!
Offer to help her in any way with your talents
She may need your input; she may need your strong arms; she may need your presence. She may need you to put dinner on the table or kids to bed. No griping!!!
Always be the Christian leader in your home
Be the one to lead the dinner time prayers or to assign those prayers to family members. Be the one to lead the family Bible Studies and to find opportunities for family growth.
Let her see your spiritual strength in action
She should be able to see you involved in church activities and hears your wisdom as you speak. She will need your encouragement to further her own studies and realize your concern for her dependence upon God.
Understand that you are secondarily the wind beneath her wings
If you are displeased or irritated by her spiritual energy and become critical of her, she will become drained and begin to lose heart. She will become saddened, tired and depressed.
Understand that, with your encouragement and sincere pleasure in her activities, she can lift mountains, conquer enemies, be a helpmate for you; and an amazing mom to your children. Her accomplishments for home and the church will become unlimited. She is not asking you to take the place of God in her life, but to align her in second place underneath the canopy of God’s protection and guidance.
If you allow it, she will become like the Worthy Woman of Proverbs 31:10-31. Who is that you say? Many men have not read what this woman of God accomplished. If you have not read it, please do so. You will see what a strong, spiritual woman is capable of when supported by a strong, spiritual man!
Let’s take a quick overview:
This woman has her husband’s trust, and he has no lack of gain!
She consistently does him good and not evil!
She works with wool and flax, stretching her hand out to the spindle; her household is clothed in scarlet.
Her clothing is fine linen and purple.
She makes linen garments and sells them and supplies belts to tradesmen.
Her lamp does not go out at night; she rises while it is night to make food for her household.
She buys a field and plants a vineyard.
She brings food from afar.
She extends her hand to the poor and stretches out her hand to the needy.
She opens her mouth in wisdom and teaches in kindness.
She is not idle.
She has strength and dignity and smiles at the future.
Her children called her blessed and her husband praises her saying, “Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but MY wife, who fears the LORD, shall be praised.
Where is her husband in all this? Verse 23--He is sitting at the gates where he is known among the elders of the land—obviously, he is a great man of God!
Did I hear you ask if there is a Biblical example of this co-joined relationship? Of course! Here is a real-life example of a man that understood the keys to supporting a strong Christian wife. Let’s look at Aquila and Priscilla who were co-workers with Paul on his second missionary journey.
Let’s notice how they are specifically mentioned in scripture:
Acts 18:2-3 — First introduced as tentmakers in Corinth who befriended Paul. Aquila is mentioned first.
Acts 18:18-19 — Priscilla and Aquila are mentioned as leaving Corinth with Paul and settling in Ephesus. Priscilla is mentioned first.
Acts 18:25-27 — Priscilla and Aquila are mentioned as pulling Apollos, an eloquent teacher of God, aside and teaching him more accurately the way of the LORD. Priscilla is mentioned first.
Romans 16:3-5 — Prisca (Priscilla) and Aquila were mentioned as being fellow-workers with Paul even risking their lives for Paul. Wow! They were also mentioned as hosting the church that met in their home. Priscilla is mentioned first.
1 Corinthians 16:19 — Paul sends greetings from Aquila and Prisca and the church that meets in their home to the church in Corinth. Aquila is mentioned first.
2 Timothy 4:19 — Paul instructed Timothy to greet Prisca and Aquila as he traveled. Priscilla is mentioned first.
In our day-to-day involvement with couples who are dear to us, we usually mention the name of the one we have most contact with first. Sometimes it is the one who has the greatest responsibility over people or jobs that we will mention first, or, the most well-known of the two may be mentioned first. We are not told the specific roles of Aquila and Priscilla, but Paul seems to mention Priscilla first more often than Aquila. Whether she took a stronger role in teaching, or hosting the church, we do not know, but we can be assured that as they worked together for the sake of the kingdom, they worked as a team.
Now here is one major secret to their success: Aquila has shown himself through scripture to be willing to encourage, and at times maybe take a secondary role to the role of his wife. He is never mentioned as prohibiting Priscilla and her involvement in any way, ever! It is because of his strength to carry her that she looks to have been the stronger of the two. But we all know, she could not have done any of it without the support of her beloved husband. Aquila obviously appreciated all that Priscilla could do and upheld her efforts, which helped to grow the church of our LORD.
What a mighty man of God… As are you too, a mighty man of God, when you encourage your wife to use her talents for the kingdom. Understanding these things will give you the keys to supporting a strong Christian wife. It also wouldn’t hurt to buy some flowers on your way home today and tell your amazing wife how proud you are of all that she does!
“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself.” – Ephesians 5:25-28
“This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church.” – Ephesians 5:32